Blog #7

Material Intimacy

Today's blog is on a subject that is dear and close to both male and female. So on this subject of marital intimacy. This is the subject that where you should not be ashamed about and inquiring about directions and the content of the subject itself.

There are different phases that we will be discussing, the first one ls excitement phase, the next is plateau with a third being orgasm. It was discussed at the excitement phase is when both the male and female start feeling asexual arousal. During the excitement phase the male pennis becomes engorged with blood and becomes erect. For the female most of the changes are done eternally. The vagina opening begins to expand and the muscles start relaxing. The female also starts secreting a fluid to allow insertion of the male pennis. Relaxation is also plays a part in the male penises ability to become erect. Anxiety is the downfall of a sexual response for either the male or female. For women the excitement does take longer to occur.

The next phase is plateau, which is a- awareness at a higher plane. The term itself is Spanish meaning a relatively level service considerably raised above adjoining land or on at least one side. The plateau level is a heightened awareness or feeling and can last considerably longer for females versus males.

The next stage is that a climax or orgasm. during orgasm there are rapid pulses that take place in the lower abdomen and are immensely pleasurable. For the male this can lead to ejaculation which carries sperm and fluids. The sperm is produced in the testicles well two other glands, the Cowper’s gland and the prostate.

The next phase isn't item called refractory phase which leads to a rapid decline of the excitement coming down from the plateau. A male cannot engage in a rapid arousal again without rest period taking place. The female is different, in the female could more orgasms with continued stimulation, as there's no refractory time needed.

It is usually easier for men to climax than it is for females. The female takes a longer period of time and stimulation. For the male, penis/vagina insertion is very stimulating and not quite as much so for the female. For the female it is reported that only 10% of the women report an actual climax from the penis vagina insertion.

Some of the issue can be that for the female she wants to feel save warm and close before she can have arousal.

There are some secretion secretions within the body Dopamine (which gives a woohoo feeling instead of ahh) and serotonin (a neurotransmitter that is associated with a well-being feeling. When I have the release of oxycontin, which is commonly associated with contractions done during birth and creates attachment. A interesting side note in this is that studies have shown that the more sexual partners a female has had, the harder it is for her to create attachment.

The sexual peak for males is around the age of 18 or 19 while for females it's around the age of 30 or 35. For females it comes just before the end of their reproductive years.

Under new studies called female response cycle as they evidence that a woman could be sexually stimulated but not necessarily feel arousal. The female needs to allow themselves during this phase to be aroused. For madness is more automatic response that it is for the female for men that can just be the stimuli whereas a female needs to be in a place physiologically for this to happen(arousal).  A interesting thing discussed was that for males this may become an issue as the male ages in life.

Some of the issues that can be created in a young married couple are that the female will feel that the male doesn't love her and just wants her for physical use. Conversely the male may feel that by her reactions he doesn't “measure up”. That's going to be seen by this the couple needs to have a open and caring loving conversation about how to approach marital sex. such as the need for discussion the need for arousal by the female and how they can go about that subject matter.

A book that was given out by elder and sister Holland was called and they were not ashamed. This book deals with physical intimacy in marriage. marital intimacy is something that should be discussed at the at least in the engagement stage of relationships intimacy is more than just sex.