Blog post #9

Today's post starts out with the area of the problems of communication, we have thoughts and feelings; from there to encode; through media;  dencode to the thoughts and feelings again. This is the area that we'd have a pathway between two individuals going. One of the figures quoted in class was that words make up 14% of communication whereas tone make up another 35% of communication and nonverbal communication makes up 51%. It would seem that the majority would be in nonverbal communication which is one of the reasons that we need to ask direct questions to another party to make sure that we understand just what it is that they are saying/talking about.

There were several areas covered in class with one of them being “the 5 secrets of effective Communications.”

This starts with the abbreviation of E= empathy; A= assertiveness; R= report.

Within the empathy heading there's a technique used called disarming technique. This is where we find some truth into what other person has said this sometimes carried another area which in empathy is the thought of empathy or the feeling of empathy the third area is inquiry where we want to gently probing used probing questions to learn more about what the other is thinking and dealing with. When we use assertiveness, it is not the stick it to the other person type but to say I feel this or that it's to you used as a probing statement in order to express your own ideas and feelings but not in a confrontation with the other person under report we have a area called stroking this is where we have an attitude of respect towards the other person.

One might use the I feel statement it should be the used and the extent that we when we use the word when it equals an advance, I feel is the motion that we are feeling, because it's the thought we want to share and the results would be I would like.,

 

grace was a word used during class discussion in that we are giving something we have not earned paid for or deserve this is in conjunction with the scripture verse my grace I give unto you the discussion was held on empty ends six and scriptures which kind of refers to the way we should treat marriage.

It is interesting to note that this is similar to a phrase that is used where we are not to judge another without first walking in their shoes. We do not know what the other person is thinking or feeling and without placing ourselves in their shoes we will not know unless we start asking questions.

It is interesting that one of the readings was to review counseling with our council by elder Ballard. The thing that is interesting about this is it contains all the leaders of the church made in their council (apostles) and everyone goes around giving their input and their feelings on this subject. This continues until such a time as all agree on the actions that are needed. That is interesting that this concept requires all involved to love another as Jesus does, not rising in anger but to truly try to understand the other person's point of view period. Thus, the decisions made are done in unison and with one accord I think of the example of this would be what would Jesus have done if he was here.

 

One of the areas that seems to be pointing out is that there is a lack of communication between the family members for many of the subjects that should be discussed. It is difficult for individuals to open up and give their opinions and feelings without being hurt personally. This is something that needs to be worked on by all those involved in the family and will result in a open communication link between the all the parents and siblings and extended family members.